Lack of Confidence
Pyschologists call lack of confidence learned helplessness. Drunks usually learn helplessness by trying to control themselves and not being able to. The important thing here is. If you learned helplessness maybe you can unlearn it. Pyschologist refer to a famous experiment they performed on dogs. They would pass electricity through the floor of the dogs cage. To excape the shock the dogs would jump to another part of the cage. They then made it impossible for the dogs to get to an area of the cage that wouldn't shock them. Soon the dogs stopped jumping at all when they shocked them, they simply lay there and took it. Learned helplessness. There is nothing they can do about it, why even bother to try to escape the shock. Then the scientists made a side of the cage shock free. The dogs still lay there. They had to pick them up and move them to the safe side to show them they could escape the painful shocks. The good news is that after awhile the dogs learned to go to the safe side by themselves. They didn't need people to move them. So they unlearned this behaviour. I think if a dog can unlearn destructive behaviour you can too. There is just one little catch. Shocks are all bad. Alcohol has a lot of good aspects to it. Maybe the alcohol doesn't hurt enough to get us to go to the shock free side of the cage. Problem drinking is all about the pay off being bigger than the consequences. Only you know where you're at on that scale.
Lack Of Confidence to Alcohol Problem
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